lymmea:

theconcealedweapon:

You’re angry about men dying in wars? Then protest against wars.

You’re angry about men dying on the job? Then demand safer working conditions.

You’re angry about most homeless people being men? Then demand that society help the poor so no one is homeless.

You’re angry about the number of men who commit suicide? Then protest against the belief that bullying is a natural fact of life. Demand that healthcare for disabled people be more accessible.

You’re angry about “ladies’ nights” at bars? Then demand that men stop lusting after drunk women. That’s literally the only reason why ladies’ nights exist.

You’re angry about circumcision? Then protest against the belief that children are the property of their parents instead of autonomous human beings.

You’re angry about men being the most common victims of violence? Then demand that people stop making fun of men for refusing to fight or for showing emotions other than anger.

You’re angry about men being labeled as dangerous? Then protest against racism, ableism, and homophobia. Men of color, disabled men, and gay men are labeled as dangerous on a regular basis and are frequently threatened because of it.

You’re angry about society not caring when a man is assaulted by a woman? Then demand that people stop making fun of boys for “fighting like a girl”, “losing to a girl”, or “getting beat up by a girl”.

You’re angry when women don’t trust men? Then tell society to stop blaming rape victims for trusting men too much.

You’re angry about society not caring when teenage boys are raped by grown women? Then tell other men to stop high-fiving each other and calling him “lucky”.

You’re angry about no one caring when men are raped in prison? Then protest against the belief that prisoners forfeit their basic human rights. Also demand an end to laws against victimless actions that put them in prison in the first place.

And guess what. You wouldn’t be alone, because those “evil social justice warriors” who you hate so much would 100% agree with you.

In short, if you think men’s rights are so important, then go advocate for them instead of advocating AGAINST women’s rights and thinking that’s somehow the same thing.

Like, for instance, if you hate that men get drafted and women don’t, let me let y'all in on a little secret: drafting women does FUCK ALL to make the draft nicer to men. So maybe instead of going IT’S UNFAIR WOMEN DON’T GET DRAFTED, consider saying MEN SHOULDN’T BE DRAFTED? Look how much more directly that actually addresses the core problem! Stunning! Something useful might actually get done that makes things better for men!

In short, you are NOT a men’s rights advocate when your actual focus is using men’s issues as a reason to dismiss and/or attack women’s issues. (Also, a lot of women’s issues AND men’s issues are caused by the same source - toxic masculinity and/or the patriarchy - and so it’s actually very easy to care about and address both. You know, if you care to.)

* Note: despite the gendered language, this post and the person making it are explicitly trans- and nonbinary-inclusive.